A Cosmic Drama

Whether you’re considered privileged or not, dealing with life on a regular basis builds up a lot of frustration.  I guess people unanimously agree that it’s better to talk about these things rather than to bottle them up and that’s fine, however I’m just in no mood to talk.  In no mood to think, really.  I’m out of words and out of coherent opinions.

I think that the best excuse for not wanting to do anything is to not think about anything, and it works just fine on any given Sunday.  I don’t call it being passive, it’s just my natural response to avoid another argument, the exhaustion of shouting an opinion, getting interrupted, or that silent competition a lot of us have in an effort to sound the most interesting.

As depressing as it might sound to shut yourself off for a few hours, I find it to be almost refreshing.  Your mind can still linger on other things.  Problems aside, I’m still breathing and healthy.  And that’s enough to be happy about or even care about for one day.

Anonymous: Do you have a friend, that one person, who is mean to you or just isn't a good person, but you just can't seem to step away from them?

Actually I’m usually pretty good about picking my friends.  But I understand your pain.

I think everyone has the capacity to be an asshole from time to time, including myself and some of my closest friends.  I guess I express a lot of patience even when they ignore me for weeks at a time, only talk to me when they need something done, or don’t acknowledge something I do for them.  But you can’t expect everyone to be perfect or pat you on the back for being the nice guy you are all the time; people are just people.  You’re a good friend if you can stick by them during their best and their worst.

However if their “worst” becomes their entire persona for a while, then maybe it’s time to distance yourself.  I don’t suggest dropping any friendship immediately since there was obviously something there that pulled you two together in the first place.

Maybe the reason you can’t step away from them is because of your willingness to remain loyal or your effort to remain a decent person.  But everyone, including you, has to learn where to draw the line sometime.  If they start bringing you down with them, then I think it’s probably best to tell them how you actually feel rather than to silently take it, or start any kind of unnecessary conflict.

They’ll begin to change their attitude towards you if they’re a good friend.  If they decide to do otherwise then..  You have plenty of room for more solid friendships in your life.  That’s just the way things are.  

Do what you need to do, man.  You deserve better than to be treated badly as a friend.  And in the end, I think you’ll be okay.  :)

I know that any day besides May 13th is a perfectly good day to appreciate someone, but in conclusion to this holiday, I’d like to say thank you to all the good moms for existing.  (I know there’s a couple of you that follow me.)  And congratulations to anyone that has ever had a mom before.  Tell her you love her sometime.  Even if your mom isn’t here anymore, I think you should celebrate the fact that she raised you to be a perfectly acceptable human being while she was around.

And lastly, a special thank you goes out to my own mom.  No matter how many times she yells at me for leaving a cup out on the table, or how many times I have to explain to her that getting into Facebook fights isn’t acceptable at her age, she’s still alright I guess.  And by that I mean I probably wouldn’t be half the guy I am today if it weren’t for her.  So that’s special.

Anyway, I should conclude this post before it gets too emotional for my tastes.  I hope you all had a decent Sunday!

You can get used to a lot of things, but for some reason it’s still pretty strange to me how some people can accept compliments so easily that saying “thank you” begins to seem redundant for them.

I’m not suggesting anyone should change their attitudes towards a compliment since that’s a personal preference entirely.  However, a sincere compliment to me is just..  extraordinary to an extent.  Just to think that anyone was observant enough to notice something beyond physical attractiveness or visible talents is something to acknowledge I think.

This isn’t me attempting to dig for any compliments I don’t deserve, however I do wish to thank anyone who can praise someone for a trait beyond the superficial.  You’re great, really.

Anonymous: Have you read "Grapes of Wrath"? I think your style of thinking is dangerously similar to John Steinbeck's; except maybe for the fact he might have had communist tendencies.

I haven’t read much of the guy’s work, but he’s a pretty renown author as far I know.  Surprisingly I was never assigned to read Grapes of Wrath nor Of Mice and Men.  I saw that one adaptation with Gary Sinise and John Malkovich though..

Even though I cannot embrace your complement fully because of this, I still appreciate your kind and educated connection.  It means a lot to me, really.  Stay awesome.  :)

A generalization of any group of people is pretty unsettling to me even when you leave out any assumptions that come off as racist or sexist.  (Even though those are the big ones.)

It just seems to me that so many us assume a person will be better or worse based on one characteristic that isn’t vital to that particular person’s overall being.

..  I think I just confused myself there.  But to make my point, some people will just choose a lifestyle or partake in certain hobbies or activities that don’t define them as people.  You’d be pretty far-fetched to believe you completely know a guy just because you observed a couple things about his sense of style or mannerisms.  It’s faulty reasoning, and sometimes it’s even rude to be honest.

I choose to believe that we’re all complex, strange, confused, and sometimes even inconsistent and fickle in our own ways.  No one’s defined by what they do, what you observed without even talking to them, or what some cute Tumblr .jpeg makes them out to be.

I guess all I’m trying to suggest is that we become a better judge of character.  Give some people a chance; they’re not all bad, I promise.